RESILIENCE

Bouncing back when your bounce has gone.

We all have those days when we are hit by a curve ball from out of nowhere, news or events that take the wind out of us completely, leaving us totally deflated. At that moment we cannot see our way ahead, or how we will possibly overcome the situation.

But only at that moment, for like most things, this too will pass, or a solution will be found. What we need to do is actively step into resilience mode, taking ourselves as much as possible out of our emotions and moving into an active process to get ourselves up and going again.

The first step is to allow ourselves some time to indulge, understand and accept the emotions that we are feeling, to become mindful of our true emotional state.

We next need to look at our circumstances with eyes of gratitude: in this bad situation, what can we be thankful for? This can be a really strong weapon in the fight to regroup and get up again.

After this we are better able to look at the situation more optimistically, we are better able to see positive steps that we can start to take, no matter how small.

During this process we must not be too hard on ourselves, we need self compassion to move us forward. Being too hard on ourselves will only drive us down even further.

Finally, we need to grit our teeth and make the decision to keep moving forward and up, no matter how small the steps may be, or how hard it may become. Little by little we will rise, and the further we go the easier it will become.

Try to avoid making any major decisions until you are feeling more solid , and even then stay mindful of those emotions that may cause strong influence in one direction or another.

It may not be easy, but it is possible to recover from any situation, with understanding, time, effort and determination.

And never underestimate the power of prayer in bringing you peace.

Terri Codd MCF Corporate Training & Life Coach: 076 751 3556: coddterri@gmail.com: terri@m-c-f.co.za: terricodd.blogspot.com