HOW TO REJECT REJECTION

Many years ago, when I was an actor, I really used to get depressed going for auditions, knowing that I auditioned well, but still not getting the part. It seemed that my days were a constant round of being rejected.

But then my agent gave me some advice regarding rejection that has stood me in good stead over the years.

She asked me what I thought my job was as an actor. Well, my initial response was ‘what a dumb question’, but I answered, ‘to act?’

Her answer told me I was wrong. Because she said my job was to audition, that was where I should put in my effort on a day to day basis, to do my job the best I could. Nothing more can be asked of anyone than they do their best. I could then hold my head high whether offered the role or not. In fact, getting the role should be seen as a bonus, not the object of the exercise.

In truth, what she was telling me was that rejection is not something that emanates from somebody else, it is something that comes from within ourselves. We may not be aware of it, but we  choose to feel rejected, therefore we can also choose not to.

What she had given me was a thought change, a mechanism whereby I could more easily make that choice not to feel rejected.

The more you make that choice, the easier it becomes. Truth is, you can refuse to accept rejection and it is your choice alone.

My question to you is: in what area are you most likely to suffer the feeling of rejection and what mechanism can you use to change your thought pattern, to enable you to reject the feeling of rejection?

It can be done, and it will change the way you live your life. So, give it a go.

Terri Codd MCF Corporate Training & Life Coach: 076 751 3556: coddterri@gmail.com: terri@m-c-f.co.za: terricodd.blogspot.com